Everybody makes public faux pas. Even private ones, for that matter. I understand. I do. But they're often harder to avoid, as you may know, when you're on the autism spectrum. Now, I know not to use that to excuse myself, but I do think doing so is a valid way of explaining myself.
Recently I've repeatedly met up with a certain friend at his place, and we've found ourselves frequently upsetting each other through both my social difficulties and his (by his own admission problematic) temper. This week after another such incident, he told me he was disappointed in how I seemingly regress even after we resolve every preceding one. Obviously, I wish this weren't so but I have noticed how much it can be. Whether it's from my mental wiring or my upbringing or if I've just become set in my ways after having lived more or less alone since 2013, I can't precisely say. But I am not saying that's true just to placate anybody.
My social mistakes, at least in this context, very often differ, too, which obviously trips me up further and so, from them I can feel like I just can't win, although that usually passes before long. But the feeling still hits me nonetheless.
But I digress. I assure you all, he and I have the sort of relationship where we always manage to forgive and educate each other. Don't worry about us; I'm writing this entry just for my own sake. He and I now have arranged to have a private break from each other, excluding the public project we're both working on. To all of you, though, I say this: I know from this friendship of mine that being friends (or family) with an autistic person can be very challenging, but I promise you we can show you unconditional love, loyalty and respect. Such a relationship can be worth it mutually.
P.S. I'm sorry for the fake, misleading title; that was lest my friend sees this blog (he hates The Lord of the Rings, but I do love it).
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