We've all been there. You're having fun socialising, wherever it is. Maybe it's after a long week at work or school. You mightn't have seen the other person for awhile. But then, the conversation takes a turn to the more personal. They bring up what's happening in their sex life, or the emotional side of their relationships, and now you're hearing too much information, especiallty if you're eating. Either you politely tell them so or you try to take it all in, all the while hoping nobody else nearby can notice or hear. That's understandable, and natural.
But I've long wondered why so many of us react this way in such situations. I myself would be repulsed if a friend described their sexual activities to me. But the question is, why do most of us find hearing about or discussing such behaviours so offputting when odds are we also engage in them, privately, ourselves? Maybe it's because I'm not that learned on psychology, but is there something on a more fundamental level - in our collective sensory processing - that just makes the discussion of our sexual activities unpleasant to each other, but not ourselves engaging in such acts?
I'm certainly not trying to encourage perversion or nosiness here, either. I just for some time (on and off, however) have been mulling over the reason for this observation. I also don't know if calling it hypocritical would be completely appropriate either. Come to think it, the answer could just be something we all individually and subjectively provide. But hey, many social questions have a collectively-inspired answer(s). I've covered all the conclusions I can draw on this one. Can you draw any others?
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